Miami Hurricanes football team head coach Larry Coker asserted, “The goal here every year is to win the national title.” Coker’s goal looks a bit on the higher side as there is no guarantee what the outcome of a match ever will be but he knows his team has to aim higher always to prevent it from falling short.
Spirit to win in all the roles we play in life is as essential as it is in sports. Most of the time, I have experienced that people win in one or two areas. But in other they are failures without creating significant impact. But to win is not easy as it sounds. You have to suffer pain where others stop going. A good example is Roger Bannister, an English athlete who was the first to run a mile in less than 4 minutes. In the 1952 Olympics in Helsinki, Bannister set a British record in the 1500 metes, but did not win the medal he expected. This humiliation strengthened his resolve to be the first to be 4-minute miler which he later ran. It was a stupendous achievement as no one had ever dream of it before. He then said prophetically after winning, “The man who can drive himself further once the effort gets painful is the man who will win.”
Winning all the roles may be a rarity but winning most of them is not. Given that we are in the rat race of making a living winning therefore is not an end itself. In the pursuit of win let us not deflect from our goals and spoil our relations with others.
Winning should never be reduced to a rat race which is never fruitful as we see when many rats in a single maze expend a lot of effort running around, but ultimately achieve nothing either collectively or individually. There is some satisfaction to be gained when we have a purpose to work unlike many who think work as a seemingly endless pursuit with little reward or purpose.
The question is not winning per se. I have come across excellent industrialists but as a parent, husband or friend they are found wanting. I have seen excellent professionals who fail to sustain good health; some even are liquor addicts and miserly. I have seen excellent creators with poor finance management skills. Can we then term their lives as achievements of victories?
Life is demanding from birth to death and there is no one single purpose to it. Man has to balance many multi roles to win. Though you may not win yet your inner soul wants to win and forge ahead. You can’t settle for anything less than what you are capable of. But you must also know how to balance yourself in time of defeat.
In spiritual world, you have taken this birth to a certain set of people around you. You have also certain class of people to deal all your life and some will play a role for limited time. There is a flux in life with lot of uncertainties with relationships developing and breaking off. Opportunities come and go by. The one who has the resolve and concentration to do something is the one who gets the prize.
Some people around you are based on your choice selection and some are born with you. You need to experience events as a detached observer as you move ahead in life.
You could learn even when you lose. My point is how many times someone could lose and learn? If you cannot put to practice what you learnt then what is the point in learning?
My point is since life is a struggle you cannot leave anything to chance. If you want something you’ve never had you have to do something you have never done to get it. Here lessons learnt from failures too come in handy. Albert Einstein was right when he said: Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.
I strongly suggest you to win in all the areas of life with proper ratings to match. You need to move forward with value additions every year. You have sound mind and body to sustain success with a winning attitude.
To feel great you have to win all matches in your life. Yes! it is a challenge and sounds an impossible task. But a true leader meets challenges head-on however tough and wins over. I have hope for you.