These rules aren’t written anywhere. Everyone knows them; they’re just accepted and mostly are adhered to. About once a year, though, someone violates an “unwritten rule”. Sportscasters, bartenders and everybody else go insane and argue for two days and it’s all in good fun. We usually say “well, everyone knows that…”, or “they should have known”. Today marks the beginning of the Major League Baseball playoffs (non-American readers, don’t leave, there’s a point here, and you don’t need to understand the game to get it. I promise!) One of the reasons I find the game both intriguing and infuriating is that it has a lot of “unwritten rules”. Tradition, culture and 140 years of playing the game dictate behavior.
You run out a single, even if you know you’re out. It’s okay to try and scare an opposing batter and “brush him back” if he hit a home run off you last time. Grabbing your crotch in public is somehow acceptable…
But here’s the question. If the rules aren’t written down, or at least expressly stated, is it fair to think that people should just know anything? Does everyone really know what you know, or think about things the same way you do? How do you know?
I strongly believe that there must be some rules in the life, relationship, team, business and profession. It is to be very much pre defined and also people around you also know it very well. Transparencies require and in my eyes, prove worthy and fruitful.
These rules add clarity; avoid unnecessary disturbances, hazards, and useless discussions, save lot of unproductive time of everyone’s life. You could lead better life or play better game.
I can certainly understand that there are professions where no rule works, like photography. Fun philosophy. There are places like computer where only rule works. Absolute as per the guideline and rules. Science and technology follow rules they cannot effort luxury of NO RULES. It could cost them probably little life.
In India, religious call smaminaryan. Where the founder is consider as God and treated as God almost after 150 years . They have rule dairy, call ‘ shikshapatri. This small book is known as rule of life.(some of the rules found absolutely absurd in current affairs ) But all the disciples follow it by heart and enjoy feeling of proud for following it.
“I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do.”
― Robert A. Heinlein
I do agree but it is a matter of process..When you are so strong internally and by spirit and mind follow it, otherwise rules help you to walk on the roads. Very properly
You could learn few rules by falling over and over. Instead of that, pre defined rules direct you most effectively by the entire mean in all the sides.
Lou Holtz Louis Leo “Lou” Holtz is a retired American football player, coach, and active sportscaster, author, and motivational speaker asserted very promptly that I follow three rules: Do the right thing, do the best you can, and always show people you care.
Certain rules direct you and people very much properly. You become more conscious and follow those rules particularly to avoid most unproductive activities among the relationship. Even, it helps to lead you effectively and straight to the point.
It’s difficult to hold people to a standard that doesn’t technically exist. You, and they, are making a set of assumptions about standards of work, resource availability and codes of behavior. That’s great, until there is a disconnect and something goes wrong.
Sometimes, you know that what is not up to the standard. What is the standard that only you knew it as you have defined standards?
Once something is explicit, it’s a much bigger problem when your dynamics are left implicit, instead of explicit.